Is counselling right for you?
I have worked with issues including anxiety, stress, depression, relationship problems, loss or bereavement, drug or alcohol abuse, and many of life’s other challenges. What the people I work with usually have in common is a sense of wanting something to change, even if they aren’t sure whether change is even possible.
I believe people often have more choices available than it seems when in the middle of a distressing situation. The act of telling our stories to someone who will listen, with empathy and understanding, can help open up new perspectives for us. Events that happened in the past can’t be changed, but how we respond to them in the present can be.
Every person is unique and I tailor my therapeutic approach to each individual. We all have different ways of approaching the world and what works well for one person may not be right for another. There’s no right or wrong way to be a client. I draw from what are known as Humanistic approaches, including Person Centred, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis and Redecision Therapy.
Working with both men and women
In the UK two women seek counselling for every man who does. This fits with my own experience of who I’ve worked with. I have noticed more men booking sessions recently, and that’s something I’d love to see continue. I’ve written a blog, Counselling Men, exploring some of the beliefs I feel may block some men from getting the help that could make such a difference. The most dangerous being a belief that talking about what’s troubling you is a sign of weakness. I believe the opposite is true. Getting help to make sense of what our bodies are telling us we want and need (which is what emotions are for), is a sign of real strength and courage.
Where I Work
My main practice is based in Lewes, which is also convenient for clients coming from Brighton, Eastbourne, Ringmer, Plumpton, Haywards Heath, and surrounding towns and villages. There are good train and bus connections, and affordable on street parking is available. I also offer a Skype counselling option for those who may not be in a position to travel.
*New* I now offer a limited number of sessions in Hove, as well as my usual Lewes counselling. See here for more information.