Is counselling right for you?
I have worked with issues including anxiety, stress, depression, relationship problems, loss or bereavement, harmful behaviour, and many of life’s other challenges.
As someone who has lived and worked in several countries, I have a particular interest in issues around adapting to different cultures. This includes experience working with what are sometimes known as Third Culture Kids (TCKs).
Many of the people I work with want something to change, but perhaps feel stuck in a hopeless situation.
I believe people often have more choices available than they may realise. Sharing our experience with someone who will listen with empathy and understanding, can help open up new perspectives for us. Events that happened in the past can’t be changed, but how we respond to them in the present can be.
Every person is unique and I tailor my therapeutic approach to each individual. The same when I work with couples or other relationships. We all have different ways of experiencing the world and what works well for one person may not be right for another. I draw from a range of what are known as Humanistic approaches, including Person Centred, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis and Redecision Therapy.
Working with both men and women
In the UK two women seek counselling for every man who does. I have, however, noticed more men booking sessions recently, and that’s something I’d love to see continue. I’ve written a blog, Counselling Men, exploring some of the beliefs I feel may block some men from getting the help that could make such a difference. The most dangerous being a belief that talking about what’s troubling you is a sign of weakness. I believe the opposite is true. Getting help to make sense of what our bodies are telling us we want and need (which is what emotions are for), is a sign of real strength and courage. I discuss this in more detail in an interview with Viva Lewes magazine which appeared in the October issue. You can read it here.
Where I Work
I live in Lewes, East Sussex, but as a result of Covid I moved my practice onto Zoom. An unexpected, but welcome, result of this is I am now able to work with people wherever they live, who for a variety of reasons may have found local in person counselling either unsuitable, or not available.